Loving someone without meeting them in person

Love is in itself a complex and amazing thing if you ask me it is full of surprises, where a person typically gets to explore many hidden aspects of his or her personality. But what if one invariably falls for someone whom they haven’t met physically ever? Or connecting with them in person in the near future seems remotely impossible.

The problem is across centuries writers, poets, storytellers, movie makers have highlighted the sensual beauty of the beloved. The way Shakespeare describes the beauty of Juliet in “Romeo and Juliet”, all reemphasized the concept of bodily beauty. All this made it a mandatory condition to accept someone whom one can see in person. But playing the devil’s advocate, I would genuinely like to throw light on an important question “Can you fall in love with someone, without meeting them in person?”

I performed my bit of independent research and many dating coaches and experts nullify the idea, in fact, they have termed it as some kind of romantic idealism, which if I translate in regular language means “Romantic Bullshit”. The point conveyed in the favor is: nothing can replace the physical touch, the familiar smell, and those little quirks of a person which undoubtedly constitutes fond memories.

Well, I partially agree and also disagree. Memories, love all are extremely personal experiences, and all size doesn’t fit everyone. Though I am a firm believer in the fact, love can happen without meeting the person in the tangible world. But then, it justly demands substantial honesty, transparency, good communication, and trust. Though if I am not wrong then the rules are the same for the real world love too. We have to comprehend the fundamental difference between unbridled lust and love. Lust is often governed by the visible features of a person, whereas love is more deep and intense. Many times one falls for the virtues present in the individual, rather than the sensual aspect. And for that being present in human form is not a mandatory condition.

It all boils down to the fact of what exactly an individual is looking for? And what is his/her precise definition of love? In many cases people develop an intense connection before exchanging photographs; in fact, photo exchange remains a mere formality. But here straightforward honesty is the key, one needs to willingly share the accurate information about the self. We need to understand both the parties construct a specific image on the basis of information shared. Believe in me by stating the truth, both of them are undoubtedly saving themselves from the profound disappointments, which might appear while invariably meeting in person.

My valuable advice to all those people who are in an online relationship or support it, if you hate books please don’t act as a bookworm to gain the other person’s affection and if you are face timing, don’t put on excessive makeup, be what you really are.

The million-dollar question is how do you know, you are undoubtedly falling for someone online? Well, if you keep on checking the green dot beside the person’s name on Facebook Messenger then your heart is acting naughty. When you listen to the songs on YouTube if they instantly remind you of your online affection, and, you end up sharing the video or the lyrics then it is time to think. If you keep on reading and rechecking every post of his/her on social media and intentionally try to figure out the other person’s personality, congratulations, you are not a stalker you are falling for someone.

Genuinely loving someone and getting that love back again is a rare gift. Do not take it for granted and don’t mar it with lies, false hopes, commitments, or any such thing. The best thing about our dear heart is, it simply understands the intense emotion named love and does not differentiate between online or real word, in the unfortunate case of a heartbreak be assured it will react in a similar manner in both the cases.