Bad Results Of Abandoning Gay Kids

Abandonment of any form is bad, and there are enough proofs in the society showcasing bad results of abandoning gay kids.

It is said the most selfless people in the world are “Parents”. Even when the child stops believing in himself, the parents never do. But what if the only two people whose acceptance matters the most, are unable to accept their child’s sexuality. Being gay isn’t easy when most of society looks down upon you, but the parent’s unacceptance, adds the cherry on the cake.

With the fear of abandonment hanging on an individual‘s head, coming out neither was nor ever will be easy. Why would a child want to lose the only people who kept him/her first? Parents believe that society won’t accept their children like this and they won’t be able to live happily. But the bigger picture which they miss out on, by disrespecting their child’s sexual orientation, they are abandoning their little one.

Though many countries have formed different laws for the community members in order to protect them. But the ground reality is conditions are not that rosy. Not for once, do the parents think of the adverse effect on the child’s present and future. Facing parental desertion at a very nascent stage in life, the whole of the personality goes through an ugly change. An individual becomes insecure about themselves, they face trust issues in every relationship, be it with friends or later stage their partners. They will always have a nagging doubt, of not being enough for their friends or partner. In a few extreme cases, it might lead to suicide. Mostly because they just can’t handle their parent’s anger, rejection, and ultimate betrayal.

 

This is just the tip of the iceberg, a few other blatant issues which can be witnessed are –

Toxic Relationships

When gay children feel they have no one, the urge for validation even from a single soul is high, which results in them getting into toxic relationships. In order to get love and unquestioned acceptance, an individual let go of most of the things which mattered to them. Do remember, losing oneself completely for the sake of a relationship, is definitely not a good idea. Many victims of abandonment, even bear domestic violence or emotional detachment, falsely believing by bearing all this, they will have someone who will love them unconditionally.

The scary part is, that mental health issues in the gay community are least addressed. Thus we often see a high rate of suicides. And in the Asian continent, where most of the countries are grappling with the acceptance of the LGBTQ community, there are no laws in place. Often, it has been seen, that a gay partner fleeces the other partner both emotionally and financially. Probably if they were accepted readily, this blatant exploitation could be avoided. Also, they knew deep down, that whatever happens, their parents are always around loving and supporting them.

Heading To Depression

A study has proven that kids with high levels of family rejection were: nearly six times more likely to report high levels of depression. And we all know how that ends, it’s one thing to talk about mental health, but another to do something about it. It is often difficult to let go of a bad childhood, which either kills them or makes them a loner.

Next time, whenever we decide to abandon gay kid, do remember the amount of damage we are inflicting on an individual.

 

Carrying Emotional Baggage

When one goes through a trauma like this, it’s not easy to let it go, in the majority of cases the person carries the emotional baggage throughout life. Even in the happiest of situations, the ugly shadow of the past is always looming around. As a result, such individuals are highly defensive or offensive, even a small provocation can lead to bigger fights. The past insecurities kick in spoiling their present with their loved ones.

The gay community is one place where even the community members often abandon each other. The hookup culture is pretty in, it can also be contributed to the lack of trust or long-term commitment.

Be it homosexuals or heterosexuals we all need a warm home and a loving partner to come home to. But sadly our past relationships often determine the future.

 

Drugs and Unprotected Sex

Once a kid senses the parent’s aloofness, they go out in full rebel mode. They will do anything under the sun to gain their parents’ attention. But what they are unable to comprehend is the kind of harm they are inflicting on selves. This unprotected sex might result in sexual diseases. Another problem is an increase in drug abuse, as it is the easiest thing, which makes them escape reality. But they are often unable to understand, it is poison though a slow one.

Is being gay such a big crime? That you condemn your child to a life of loneliness and dependency on wrong things.

 

Professional Life

With all that rejection in life, the person becomes emotionally challenged and often develops a fragile ego. Even the smallest wrath from the boss makes him/her flip. They are not even able to accept tiny rejections or jokes in the office. At times it gets to the point where they need to quit the job.

See the irony, now not only are they alone with no love, but also no money to sustain themselves in the world.

One wrong step from parents, condemn them to lifelong of suffering and isolation.

Massive Exploitation

The world is a ruthless place, when people get to know that someone is craving love and attention, they might misuse and exploit the person in need. It is not necessary that only the partner will exploit the individual, but even strangers, extended family members, and regular friends. I mean anyone as the world is filled with sharks. The worst part is when an individual realizes he/she is had been exploited, they go all the more bitter and detached. Emotional abuse is the WORST and can dismarr the psyche of a person forever.

Even if reading this doesn’t make you accept your kid then I don’t know what will. But I can request all those homophobic parents out there, it is not so hard to be happy for your kid. It just takes a little time and acceptance. Moreover, nothing should be more precious to you than your child and his/her future.

Also, I understand you had expectations but expecting someone to change who they should love is wrong at all levels. It doesn’t take much, all you have to do is tell them, that you love them no matter what, as the sexuality of your child cannot define him/her.

I would like to conclude with a parting thought, the world doesn’t seem right with just- black and white. Let’s add colors to it and make it look like a rainbow. Also, do read another article on funny myths around gay community.

Abandoning a gay kid is totally wrong. All it will take is ACCEPTANCE!